by Hannah Nelson – Associate Pastor – Kids and Families
You Need a Hug!
All of my kids had the same wonderful first grade teacher. Mrs. Daniels was like a second mom to her students in the way that she cared for them. A song that she taught her students every year has stuck with me, as a mom, ever since my son Ben was in her class (more than 10 years ago). This song was all about needing at least four hugs a day, “that’s the minimum!” (Four Hugs a Day by Charlotte Diamond).
If I had to take a guess, I would venture to say that many of you have not had the same number of hugs that you used to give or get before the pandemic started. I would even guess that you may not get the four hugs a day that this song recommends. Have you noticed that maybe you have felt a bit lonely or melancholy lately? Perhaps you have been more anxious or angry than normal. It is no coincidence that human touch and interaction helps to boost our mood and keep us emotionally connected. It is apparent, even in the Bible, that God created us to live in community. He said in Genesis 2 that humans shouldn’t be alone. He created Adam and Eve to live in the garden together. In Hebrews 10 we are instructed to not stop meeting together and to continue encouraging each other.
You need to make it a priority to get and give hugs every, single, day! Your very existence demands it! Parents, this is especially important for your children. Currently they are limited with the number of peers with whom they can interact. I know my kids love to hug their best friends, but that is hard to do when they can’t go to school and time at church is limited. Make it a point each day to hug your kids several times. Turn it into a game, see who can initiate the hug first. Add it into your routine when you leave for work, before you eat a meal, or when you tuck your kids into bed.
You’ve probably heard someone say that you even if you can’t control what happens around you, you can control how you react. So, take charge of your hug-meter. Not only will you feel better, you may just be that one hug for a friend that makes all the difference.